Every February fourteenth, couples search the store shelves for the perfect gift or card for their special loved one. According to Hallmark, more than 163 million cards are exchanged around the world on Valentine's Day each year. Many complain it's a holiday created by card companies, while others believe it's historical. Although the date has some historical reference, it has nothing to do with the beautiful love God created to be celebrated and cherished between a husband and his bride. This is a one-of-a-kind matchless love. There is nothing more beautiful or more challenging than love and marriage. Let's be honest. Yes, it's amazing at times, but it is also incredibly hard at others. The truth is, marriage isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to mold us and shape us by challenging us to become less selfish and more loving. When we accept this idea and embrace the truth, our challenges can become a good thing, and our marriage can begin to flourish. We are two hearts with three parts and according to scripture, a strand of three is not easily broken.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. But a cord of three strands is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Just as our Creator in Heaven is found in three parts as God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, he created the union of marriage to operate in the same way for the sake of strength. Together our three parts are perfected by his design. We each have our individual roles yet they operate as one captivating, beautiful masterpiece. When God created us in His image, there was no detail left undone. He not only wanted the relationship to create love in our lives, but he longed for it to thrive and operate in such a way that our love would last until death parted us.
Which part am I in the strand of three?
The answer lies in scripture. Within the marriage dynamic, there are three roles to be played. Someone has to be the head of the home which represents God the Father. Then there's the role of Jesus, who was a servant leader sent to do the work of the Father, and then last but certainly not least, there is the Holy Spirit. The mighty, rushing wind who moves throughout our lives shaking things up and challenging us to greatness.
What role does the king of our palace play?
According to Ephesians 5:23, man was created to be the head of the home. He was formed to be the noble leader who makes great decisions. The one at the top who oversees the benefits and blessings of life just like God the Father does. He is protector, using his unemotional wisdom to create strategic battle plans to defeat the enemy. He is provider. According to the story of the fish and the loaves, God provided and multiplied when there was lack. In the nature of every man is the desire to labor and bring home provision for the love of his life. This is the role God designed just for the king of our home.
Ephesians 5:25 says husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and laid down his life for it. Husbands are not only called to lead but to lead sacrificially. God challenged them to go to the ends of the earth and relinquish their lives, if required. Just as Jesus commanded the winds and waves to be still, husbands stand in the storm with arms outstretched holding back the cyclones, keeping everyone safe. A husband is gentle, yet truthful. He loves, yet he confronts as Jesus did when there was dishonor in the house. Jesus taught Biblical truth, speaking into the lives of those he led. Our husbands are to be spiritual teachers at home and at work. Jesus rose early to pray for direction. Husbands have a mandate to cover their families in prayer. Jesus did not waiver on any mission set before him. He bravely faced the enemy and used God's word as a weapon. A husband is called to be the knight in shining armor who wars for his family no matter what it costs him, even unto death.
If husband is Father and Servant Leader, who is the wife?
The wife represents the Holy Spirit! Through our identity, the strand of three is complete. Together as two hearts with three parts, the bond of marriage is strong enough to withstand any formidable foe. In scripture, the Holy Spirit represents the most powerful force sent by God to empower man. That means woman is a magnificent gift of power given from the heart of God placed in the arms of man. Genesis 2:8 says, "It is not good for man to be alone." We are beautiful and delicate like a breeze, yet powerful and strong like a mighty rushing wind and we can empower the king of our home to stand on the battlefield of life and conquer the world.
What are the characteristics of the Holy Spirit that empower us as wives?
This week as you prepare to celebrate love and romance, remember the unique role you've been given. When we understand who we are and who God created us to be, our marriage begins to look like a beautiful bouquet of flowers that will never wilt or fade away. Embracing your noble identity in marriage can actually make your life like a box of chocolates!
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