Recently, as I listened to our pastor preach a sermon on authenticity, he reminded us of the importance of being real. The truth is, anybody can be fake. Here @livinginnobility, We never want to be found trying to paint our world as all royal roses in a peaceful palace.
Because being honest and expressing personal struggles builds real life connections. Our hearts desire is to paint the world through the perspective of God's heart when it comes to doing marriage. When it seems the world has gone mad, God's view is the only real source of peace if we want to maintain our palace.
What are some of the battles we've faced?
Throughout our twenty-nine years together, we've faced a loss of identity, a suicide attempt, a near death of a child to illness, a serious freak accident, the temptation of pornography, the drive toward divorce, a mid-life shift, a child moving half way around the world, one struggling to find their path, and a child diagnosed with blindness in one eye. One of our darkest hours came eleven years ago when I became sepsis from a kidney stone and doctors declared to Dan, "We're not sure she'll make it through the night." None of these challenges were things we ever thought we'd face the day we said "I do". But let's be real, life is full of curve balls and relationships aren't easy when you feel like one of those balls has hit you right between the eyes.
Why do bad things happen?
Realizing that the battle is nothing new might bring you encouragement. History shows the human struggle has been real from the beginning of time. The first married couple couldn't even obey the single, most simple rule they were given, "Don't eat from that tree." After they blew that command, one of their children killed the other. Talk about sibling rivalry.
There's three basic answers to why bad things happen and they might surprise you. First, just like the first married couple, we can loose our paradise because of our own chaotic choices. Second, God might be allowing a test to strengthen our faith, knowing He will give us the win in the end. Or, our chaos is an attack by the enemy of our soul. God calls him our adversary in scripture. Many times, war and worship come at the same time. As Dan and I enter this new season, we're excited to be launching a new on-line ministry. While at the same time, we struggle with an incredible burden on our hearts. It's been a season of both joy and juggling our faith.
Who will you fight?
We all have choices when things spin out of control. Do we give in to the panic or succumb to the grief? Scripture is clear, we suit up and fight! No matter which of the three causes listed above are the root of your chaos, the enemy of your soul seeks to use your circumstances to destroy your marriage. What Jesus came to redeem, he wants to demolish.
What does crisis do to a marriage?
In the moments of chaos, warfare can undeniably take it's toll on a marriage. In the midst of our battles, there have been times that Dan and I have rolled up our sleeves and fought the enemy with prayer and God's word. However, there have been other times we've put on our boxing gloves and clobbered each other.
Why does that happen?
Because it's easier to fight and wound what we can see than defeat the principalities of darkness that are invisible to the naked eye. When chaos ensues, creating the war-torn castle, we have two choices. We can embrace the chaos and conquer each other or put on our armor, lock arms with our spouse, and fight for the peace God desires us to have,
Here are key strategies we've learned from the wars we've faced. They brought us peace in the midst of pandemonium!
Are you facing a battlefield?
Remember, you can find peace in the palace when you stand on his promises wearing the full armor of your Father, the King. When David defeated Goliath? He denied the armor the world had to offer him and wore the only armor that fit his soul. It was the armor of his faith. The key to your winning in times of battle is to know who you are, know who your enemy is, and walk in complete faith in the one who has already won the war!
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