Every year, many are faced with family drama at Christmas. If you are dreading the yearly "Bah Humbug," never fear, solutions are here! Is there bickering among your siblings? Do your parents seem to lose it? Is everyone a little worried about how to handle the one member of the family that is obnoxious or rude? Have no fear, the gift of advice is here.
If you want peace this Christmas, start by re-framing your perspective:
The Nasty Grinch?
It's perfectly normal for everyone to feel frustrated and somewhat envious and annoyed by a trouble maker or a braggart at family gatherings. The truth is many people who brag about themselves or cause trouble wherever they go is rooted in their woundedness. It's usually because no one is actually giving them what they so desperately desire which is usually love and approval to counter their own insecurities.
"Crazy" Angry Parents?
As parents start to reach the age where they recognize they have fewer days ahead than behind, the pressure and fear set in. The pressure to make sure your family is intact and can carry on without you when you're gone can be overwhelming. Parents want the security of knowing that the family will carry the torch forward with honor in their name. Those emotions always seem to surface around the holidays. As everyone gathers in one location, the flaws begin to shine. As arguments or issues come to the surface, the fear sets in. Fear is like fuel to an already smoky situation. Anger is a powerful emotion almost always fueled by the deeper, stronger emotion of fear. Remember too, your parents are coming from two different perspectives as man and woman, mother vs father, and husband vs wife. They are processing their fears in two different ways. Men often attack. Women tend to defend. All perfectly normal. Consider some of these thoughts your parents may be thinking.
What are your choices this Christmas to stop the crazy and the nasty?
This year, exchange the gift of peace in the palace for chaos by doing something different. Quit hoping for a new batch of wonderful in the holiday season while throwing in the same ingredients, the same people, and the same problems. Here's a plan for a whole new way of doing Christmas. You can kick the "bah humbug" right out of the party!. Keeping people busy is key to any party including family gatherings. If you want to avoid the "Grinchy" hubbub get creative and change it up. Here are my suggestions for creating Christmas peace on earth and good will toward men!!!
Most importantly, remember to Have a Blessed and Merry Christmas! After all, it only comes once a year!