There is nothing more beautiful or more challenging than being a woman. Let's be honest. Yes, it's amazing at times, but it is also incredibly hard at others. The truth is, women are struggling to find their identity in a world full of chaos that challenges us to fit the mold dictated by culture instead of the identity given to us at creation. So many women have lost their way and don't really know who they are. They've been marred by wounds and victimization. They think they're "less than" so they rise up and cry out to proclaim who they will be. This is not the heart or very essence of who we really are.
When God created us in His image, there was no detail left undone. He not only wanted us to be captivating but powerful. Despite what you've been told, God had intentions for you from the beginning of time and those intentions change the world! As I wrote my award winning book on marriage, "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?" I was shocked by what I learned that I had never been told by the school, the culture, the women's movement, and even the church despite it's love of people.
The key is searching out the truth in the original language spoken over us from the beginning of time. We have to understand God said amazing things about us when woman was created. Then he sent his son to live out his love for us as women. Jesus showed up and spoke up for the prostitute, the orphan, the barren, the woman with the issue of blood, and the wounded women of his day. Why? Because he knew who we were created to be despite who we had become because of our circumstances. He loved us and he desired for our destiny to be fulfilled no matter what the world had to say.
To understand the identity of "woman," we have to go back to the garden before the roses wilted. God created marriage for man and woman to become one flesh and complete each other's design. In that design we are made in his three part image. He is Father (Godhead), Son (Jesus), and Holy Spirit. We are a part of that same design.
What role does the king of our palace play?
According to Ephesians 5:23, man was formed to be the noble leader who makes great decisions. The one at the top who oversees the benefits and blessings of life just like God the Father does. He is protector, using his unemotional wisdom to create strategic battle plans to defeat the enemy. He is provider. In the nature of every man is the desire to labor and bring home provision for the love of his life. This is the role God designed just for the king of our home.
Ephesians 5:25 says husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and laid down his life for it. Husbands are not only called to lead but to lead sacrificially. God challenged them to go to the ends of the earth and relinquish their lives, if required. Just as Jesus commanded the winds and waves to be still, husbands stand in the storm with arms outstretched holding back the cyclones, keeping everyone safe. A husband is called to be the knight in shining armor who wars for his family no matter what it costs him, even unto death.
Who is Woman?
She represents the Holy Spirit! In scripture, the Holy Spirit represents the most powerful force sent by God to empower man. That means "woman" is a magnificent gift of power given from the heart of God placed in the arms of man. Genesis 2:8 says, "It is not good for man to be alone." We are beautiful and delicate like a breeze, yet powerful and strong like a mighty rushing wind and we can empower the king of our home to stand on the battlefield of life and conquer the world as we stand beside him and war with him.
What are the characteristics of the Holy Spirit that empower us as women?
Never forget the unique role you've been given as a woman. When we understand who we are and who God created us to be, everything in our life changes. We no longer have to declare our power or position, we walk in our power and position. We don't have to march on Washington to tell the world who we are. The world will know who we are. Embracing your noble identity will empower you to become the captivating, motivating, world changing woman you've been created to be!
Get ready for one of the most exciting new scheduling ideas I’ve heard in a long time! As you know, turning the corner and heading back into a new school year can mean marriage relationships sometimes take a beating. Especially when it comes to intimacy. If we're not mindful, we can find ourselves so busy keeping the children on time and moving forward, that we neglect to connect with our spouse out of distraction and exhaustion.
Reality is, our physical oneness needs to be a top priority regardless of how busy or tired we are, Why you might ask? Because It's key to staying in sync in the middle of bumbling busyness. When the storms of life blow your way, physical connection is the glue that keeps the marriage relationship in tact. It's the drawbridge to the palace!
Here's the newsroom facts!
As I was wrapping up the three chapters on intimacy for my book, “Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?," I discovered a scheduling scandal I had to expose! I was shocked when I read the results of a new study on S-E-X Scheduling. (Oh My!) It was revelational to say the least. Apparently the female body goes through a hormone shift when S-E-X is placed on the calendar. I know! I know! You probably think as I have that this theory seems void of romance. Many women shun the idea for fear it removes spontaneity from bedroom balihoo with their spouse. Honestly, I have avoided the notion myself for that same reason.
Drum roll please!
The lack of romance idea goes out the window with this one, ladies. In the study where both men and women scheduled intimacy, researchers found the blood hormone levels of women miraculously shifted. The findings concluded sexual desire hormones actually accelerated for females when they scheduled S-E-X on the calendar. The shift in hormones is believed to occur because women are spending time dreaming about having sex. Even more surprising, men’s hormones did not shift at all. That came as no surprise to me. After all, scheduled or not, men often look forward to intimacy with the queen of their palace.
When I read the study, I realized once again our God never ceases to amaze me! He literally built into women the ability to change our sexual hormone levels despite our busy “mom on the run” lifestyles. Being outside the realm of time, God knew all the hats we’d wear as wife and mother in a fast paced world, so he gave us a gift that would increase our desire and move us toward peace in the palace. Along with all the many other things on our calendar, we will reap the rewards if we actually put the word “S-E-X” there too! We can put an end to chaos in the bed chamber by simply scheduling intentional intimacy. No matter how busy or tired we are, scheduled sex increases our longing for seduction. Only our Creator could have devised such a plan. Even if it means an overnight baby sitter or a trip to the grandparents now and then for our children, it's worth it. Regardless of our circumstances, pursuing intimacy and making it a priority.can give us a bedroom bouquet of love.
Fair maidens, get out your calendars and start scheduling!
As you head toward the busyness in the new school year, get down to the business of scheduling SEX as a priority. Sex on the calendar doesn't have to be a scandal when it helps your marriage stay strong. With just a few marks penciled in, you can have yourself a year full of love regardless of how busy or tired you may be.
To Live or Not to Live?" That was the Question
Just five years into marriage and one year after giving birth to our first child, my fairy-tale quickly turned into a tragedy. It all began when my father died unexpectedly without a legal will, creating complicated circumstances. When he died, his estate went into “Probate” under the protection of the state in which a set period of time is allowed for the deceased debts to be paid, the heirs determined, and the remainder of his possessions divided equally among them. We all assumed it would be the standard six- month process. (NOT) Two years into all the chaos, I was shocked by accusations that I might not actually be my father's daughter. My only sibling filed suit for my inheritance, claiming I had no rights as an orphan.
How Could This Be?
I had always found pride in being my father’s daughter. He was popular and I used his name to my advantage. I spiraled into an identity crisis. With no legal precedence, the magistrate pondered forcing a DNA test. The courts couldn’t decide whether it was even relevant to my inheritance since my dad had claimed me as his own for thirty years prior to his death. As the events unfolded, the emotional pain was overwhelming. I didn’t know who I was as a daughter, I lost the foundation of the only family I had known, and there was nowhere to hide from the chaos. I found myself drowning in hopelessness. In desperation, one day, I determined it would be easier to die than live. That day, while my husband was at his office, I filled a tub full of water. I put my son in room-time with music playing and a gate up to protect him, and I climbed into the water. I was five months pregnant at the time, but I couldn't see past my pain. I wasn't crazy and I had never had mental illness, but the pain was unbearable. I felt trapped in a dark, cold, underground tunnel and as I clawed at the walls I could not escape. I believed dying would take away my family's pain. I kept thinking, “If you'll just sink into this warm grave and inhale, it will all be over and the pain will stop.” Most suicides are based on some form of pain and the desire to escape unbearable hopelessness.
What Saved My Life?
As I slowly lowered myself into the water, seconds away from inhaling, I heard a powerful presence speak, “Get up and get help NOW, before you destroy your life and the lives of everyone you love!” It was a divine intervention. I had been so focused on escaping my own anguish I had failed to consider what my choice would do to my husband, my son, and the life I was carrying. Sadly, suicide may ease the human pain in the life of the one who is suffering, but it leaves behind lives that will never be the same. It leaves those who love you with unresolved pain, unanswered questions, unprocessed grief, and no emotional closure. On this day something more powerful than my pain was saving my life and the life of my unborn daughter.
I Chose Life, Will You?
I got up, wrapped myself in a towel and called a counseling center. Within minutes, I was headed towards intense counseling. I realized I really did want to survive and I loved and wanted the baby I was carrying. My husband and I started marriage counseling to help us sort through the debris from the storm. We started putting our lives back together one piece at a time even though the legal matters were still unresolved. Over the next five years, we faced more tragedy including death, a family breakup, an identity crisis, an incurable illness, a freak accident, two surgeries, a near suicide, medical bills, mounting legal expenses, and our marriage almost dissolved but the peace I found through Biblical counseling and prayer, and the miraculous things God continued to do in each situation gave me the courage to choose life one day at a time. He is a good, good Father and he was faithful.
How Did it End?
At the six and a half year mark of the probation of my father’s estate, there was another divine intervention. I heard the same powerful presence tell me to voluntarily take a DNA test to determine my identity and end the probate of my father's estate once and for all. Since the courts couldn't decide, God was making the decision. Little did I know, the DNA results were not the answer I was about to receive. As Dan and I sat waiting for the DNA lab to open, I began to fall apart. I was struggling with fear. As I flashed back over the last seven treacherous years, I realized I had lost everything I had known as normal. My identity as my father’s daughter had been pillaged and taken. My family was broken. Everything I had known before my father's death was dead.
What I didn't realize was God had been ordering my steps to this place in time with a purpose bigger than my human DNA. That morning as we left home, I had grabbed a book from the shelf I'd been reading called The Gift by Max Lucado. As tears streamed down my face, I pulled the book from my purse and opened it to the place I had marked a few days before with a book marker. At the top it read, “God’s Bounteous Grace.” Then as my eyes moved down the page, I was awe struck when I read what was written in bold print at the bottom.........
“For you no longer have to worry about who your Farther is; for you are an heir to MY throne through my son.” Galatians 4:7 (The Gift)
Is Life Really Hopeless?
In an instant, everything shifted. I had just received the greatest gift my Father in Heaven had to offer me! For the first time in my life, I realized all those years I had found such pride in being called my father’s daughter I'd been wrapped in false identity. My real heritage was in being the daughter of a Great and Mighty King! I was an heir to an estate far bigger than my earthly dad had possessed. What God had for my inheritance was unmatched. It could not be taken away in court or contained on a piece of paper. For the first time in my life I knew who I really was!
God had adopted me and my earthly identity had been wiped away. I had asked him into my heart as a six-year-old little girl growing up in abuse, but I became his daughter when He took me as his own and connected me to his bloodline. My birthright had been finalized. On this day I actually recognized my pedigree. The DNA results no longer mattered. My identity had been divinely determined. Months later the estate dissolved. Our journey lasted seven years. The number seven means “perfection” in Scripture and God’s work was done. It was finished!
Why Choose To Be Adopted?
By definition, adoption means “to choose or hold as one’s own; to take, rear, and provide for a child of other parents, specifically by adoption.” All over the world, orphans long for parents. They hope to be adopted by someone they can trust who will love them forever. When Jesus, God’s son, came to the earth and lived, died, and rose again on the third day, his resurrection built the bridge to our adoption by a Father who can be trusted and who will never abandon us. So often God is blamed for all the wrong in the world. The truth is, we have an enemy who rules this earth called Satan. He seeks to rob, kill, still, and destroy. God longs to adopt us and protect us from that enemy, but we must choose to be adopted. Love never forces us into adoption, it allows us to choose because forced love isn't love. God sent his son Jesus to the earth in physical form, so he could lay down his life as a sacrifice and pay the price with his blood for our adoption.
When we willingly place ourselves in a covenant of faith with God, it means we’re placing ourselves underneath his protective covering and He becomes the roof over our lives. He covers us with his love, his power, and his royal name just as the noble King of any kingdom does. Being his daughter didn't mean all my pain or circumstances went away, it meant his love and care empowered me to survive it all and gave me hope in a hopeless situation. As noble children of the King of Kings, we are commissioned to change our chaotic castle into a peaceful palace. He becomes the roof over us, destined to cover us from the chaos that surrounds us. His banner over us is love!
“The Spirit you received (when you believed) does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the spirit you received brought about your adoption to son-ship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father’.” Romans 8:15 (NIV)
Where is Our Hope?
Our hope is found in an unmatched covenant of love. That love is offered through our adoption and adoption delivers hope in any hopeless situation. It's the unending circle of God's love for our lives and it's available to anyone who chooses to enter by faith into the covenant through the blood of Christ! These are the steps of the covenant.
C - Confess that you make mistakes and cannot do life without you Father's help.
O - Open your heart to God who created you, loves you, and wants to be your Father.
V - Veto any thoughts you have that you can do this alone or you don't need help
E - Enter into a relationship with God the Father by choosing to believe and trust him and embrace the sacrifice he made through his son, Jesus on your behalf.
N - Never doubt the simplicity of your adoption. All other religions require you to be good and work hard enough to earn your way to a God. You don't have to do anything but receive the free gift of adoption through faith and belief.
A - Allow God to love you just the way you are, no matter what you’ve done or where you’ve been. His love is free if you choose to receive it. As your parent in adoption, He loves you no matter who you were when he found you.
N - Never fear! Your identity is sealed and your birthright and inheritance cannot be taken from you.
T - Take him by the hand, walk across the bridge, and embrace your new identity as son or daughter!
Pray this Prayer in Faith and Trust Him for Your New Identity:
Dear Abba Father, I cannot save myself. I know you sent your son to die for my mistakes in order to provide a way for my adoption into your family. I want to walk across the bridge of faith that Jesus created through his death, burial, and resurrection. I am asking you to adopt me and make me your child. Please forgive me for all the wrong choices I have made. Please become the banner over my life and our palace. Please become my Lord and my Savior. I believe in your kingdom. Thank you for calling me your own and making me an heir to the inheritance you have for me. Thank you for adopting me and giving me a new identity in you. Amen
**If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, choose life now. It is worth living. You've been given life for a purpose and God has great plans for you. Reach out immediately, get help. Call a counselor or contact the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or follow this link:https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-yourself/
"O, Star of Wonder
Star of Night,
Star of Royal Beauty Bright
Westward leading, still proceeding,
Guide us to thy perfect light."
Every year at Christmas, families gather around a Christmas tree often illuminated by a bright and beautiful star at the top. In the midst of all the packages and bows, have you ever stopped to consider, why a star?
It's not just a nice finish to a festive tree. Historical and Biblical documents tell us an illustrious star appeared in the night sky around 4 B.C. a little over two thousand years ago. It was a night like no other, as the celestial glow hung in the sky over a cold and musty stable in Bethlehem.
Matthew 2:1-2 tells us the star was so important it prompted three men of honor, wealth, and wisdom to pack up their caravan and travel for months on the backs of camels through the desert in search of a promised King.
"We saw His star in the east, and have come to worship Him."
Why did they take this journey and where did it lead them?
Does the star matter?
This star has been discussed for centuries by scientists and theologians alike. They've never solved the mystery but historical documents prove it did exist. Some say it was supernova but Novas explode, creating bright light, but quickly burn out quickly and the journey of the three kings took months. Some say it was a comet, but comets usually pass through the atmosphere on a known schedule and there's no historical reference of a comet scheduled during the time of Christ's birth..
Others say it was the alignment of the planet Jupiter with the star Regulus and the northern star. Many scientists believe these three massive bodies of light aligned marking this miraculous event, creating the star, leading the Magi to their destination. Think about that for a moment. Scripture shows God as a triune God, God the Father, God the Son, and the Holy Spirit. On this starry night, they would have been in complete alignment for the purpose for which Jesus had come. As he burst forth from Heaven to earth, the hope of the world had been birthed.
Do the Heaven's really declare His glory?
Another common theory is the North star appeared over the stable that night. Maybe that's because the North Star is unlike any other star in the sky. It's the only star that can be seen from all hemispheres of the globe. It's the only star that aligns perfectly with the center of earth's axis. It's the only star in the universe that doesn't follow the natural order of rules for stars. The North star is considered to be more reliable than any compass. For someone lost, it's the way home.
Even if it wasn't the North Star appearing that starry night in Bethlehem, it definitely points us to a Savior declaring His glory. Jesus was and is unlike any King we'll ever encounter. He's the only God at the center of the earth's axis. He never followed the natural order of the rules that apply to all other Kings, and I can speak from experience that his guidance in my life has always been more reliable than any compass. When I've been lost, he's been my way home.
Another amazing fact about the North Star is most people find it in the night sky by first finding the two star groupings better known as the "Little Dipper" and the "Big Dipper". These constellations remain constant in their positions by the North Star, and over the course of the four seasons, as the earth rotates around the sun, the "Big & Little Dipper" rotate around the North Star completing their circular rotation in a years time..
What does this have to do with you and I?
Jesus is often referred to as the "living water" and a dipper is something in Bible times, people drank from. From the Old Testament to the New, Jesus is called the "living water flowing out of Jerusalem." In John 4, that identity comes to life as Jesus offers a historical drink of water to a woman at a well who was a prostitute, a divorcee, and a live-in girlfriend with a broken reputation and a shattered heart. He offered her a drink that would not only quench her thirst but wash away all her filth no matter how dirty she might have looked to the rest of the world.
Does the origin of the star matter?
Sometimes the unknown details are meant to be just that, unknown. Not knowing keeps us searching and open to the supernatural power of God and prompts us to keep listening to the voice of the Creator for answers. For the Magi, that searching led them to the King. They followed a path to the ruler of the universe who had come to bring hope, mercy, forgiveness, and love to the world.
That star wasn't just for them. It's for us. Supernaturally, the Creator of the Universe, chose to mark an unusual star with a cup in the nighttime sky. As every human being has the opportunity to look up, the message is crystal clear. Jesus came to offer everyone the opportunity to drink from a cup offered out of love, giving us all a chance to drink three hundred and sixty-five days a year! If we take the cup he offers, we will never long again for empty things like money, drugs, pornography, prostitution, lust, or divorce or any other area of our hearts where we thirst.
What's the takeaway?
So this year, take a stroll outside and consider the wonder that the Magi saw. Look up at the majestic North Star marked by the "Big Dipper" and drink in the love the God of the universe has to offer through the King who came in a manger for the sake of your hope and your peace. No matter what your past or present holds, your Father holds the promise of a future beyond your wildest dreams. This Christmas season, as you gaze upon the star on your tree, celebrate the King who marked his arrival with a light and a cup and take a drink!
Today as we honored the memories of those killed in one of the darkest days in our nation's history, a Bald Eagle literally came and landed on the 9-11 Memorial in Minnesota during the prayer ceremony! It went viral. It was a miracle in the midst of remembering tragedy. In 1776, the American Bald Eagle was chosen by the founding fathers as our national bird. It symbolizes strength, courage, freedom, and immortality. In Isaiah 40:31, God used to Eagle to mark a message of hope.
"But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint."
What does the Eagle represent?
When an adult Eagle teaches it's young to fly, it first lines up the Eaglet with the Sun and begins to fly in small circles. As it gets stronger and stronger, it goes higher and higher until it's circle gets bigger and bigger. Even in our weakness, if we line ourselves up with the Son of God, we grow stronger and stronger in our faith. As we do, we get closer and closer to Jesus the Son, and our circle of influence gets bigger and bigger.
Today's miraculous Eagle landing reminded me of a vision I had several years ago and in honor of 9-11 I want to share my story.
What was the vision?
Suddenly, I heard something very loud outside my home, and I ran out of the garage to see what it was. At the side of our driveway was a huge bird. The bird was screaming and fighting for its life. It was facing away from me with its head hanging down so low I could not tell what kind of bird it was. It's wings were dark brown so I assumed it was the hawk that lives in our back yard. It was so badly injured it was gasping for air. I felt compelled to run into the house to get a glass of water in hopes it might help. I was afraid of the bird, so I stood back to back behind it, sticking the glass around to its beak as it gulped down the water. Each time it finished the water, I ran back in for more. Every time I returned, I could tell the bird was getting stronger. The last time I offered the bird a drink, it suddenly raised it’ head and screamed. To my surprise, its head was as white as snow. I realized it was the American bald eagle. Suddenly I heard a voice say, “America is gasping for air and living water is the only thing that can save it. If my people will generously pour out living water, America will be revived.”
What is the living water?
As I pondered the symbolism of water, I was reminded that deliverance throughout Biblical history many times came through water. Moses' mom sent her newborn son down the Nile river in a basket in hopes of saving his life from Pharaoh's order to kill all baby boys. Her faith and God's faithfulness delivered him from the water. He grew up to lead God's people out of generations of Egyptian slavery. As they left captivity, Moses again parted the waters of the Red Sea to lead them into freedom and deliverance from Pharaoh and his men in hot pursuit. Then there's Jonah, called by God to dish out some living water to the people of Nineveh. Instead, he chose to run the other way and be a stowaway. As the endangered ship's crew threw him overboard to save themselves, God sent a great fish to save him and spit him out on the beach heading him towards his original destination. He went on to give the people of Nineveh the drink of salvation. What about Noah, who built a boat in a desert despite the fact it had never rained? When God brought the great flood, Noah and his family were packed safe inside the ark. They were mankind's only hope of a future. The ark came to rest when the water subsided and the hope of man's future was reborn. The most significant person of all came through a virgin as her water broke. In a cold, dark stable, God brought forth the choice of salvation through his son, Jesus. In the Jordan River, as he was washed in the water of baptism at the start of his ministry, a dove descended signifying the beginning of the fulfillment of his call and our liberation from sin.
What was the symbolism of the Eagle landing today?
As I think about the Eagle today, maybe God sent him as he sent the dove to remind us that he is our strength, our courage, our freedom, and our immortality. Our government was never meant to save us, Jesus was. Our hope is in who he calls us to be as 'we the people" and what we have to offer the dying world around us. Just like the Eagle in my dream who was injured and gasping for air, so are the multitudes that surround us. Jesus is longing to restore our nation with the water of life and bring revival. If you and I are going to contribute to that hope, we've got to start pouring water. The same living water Jesus offered at the well to a woman who was a minority, a loner, a prostitute, a divorcee, a live-in girlfriend, and an outcast. We live in a nation full of this kind of wounded, hurting people. The call to us all is to drink from the well ourselves, and then offer what we have found to everyone we know who is thirsty.
What will you do?
As we reflect on 9-11, while looking our future in the face, ask yourself what you have to pour out? You have a circle of people around you who are thirsty. They've been placed in your life for you to pour into. Let's all start digging wells with our hands. We can reach out and lift up our brother. We can offer our hands in service to make another person's load lighter. We can clasp our hands in prayer for the government and the people around us. Will you pour out the living water to the world around you? They are longing for a drink!
It seems the entire world was captivated by the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Megan Markle this weekend. Thousands stood in line, some for days, just to catch a glimpse of the royal couple! Many more watched from the internet and social media. Dan and I woke early and watched live via the news network to see the fanfare and pomp and circumstance. It was spectacular! The American Cinderella wed her Royal European Prince and entered into a life committed to nobility!
Why are we so intrigued by royalty?
As a young person, I was intrigued by Prince Harry's parents, Lady Diana Spencer and Prince Charles of Wales. Up until that point, I had only heard of royal families in the history books. Lady Di was the first royal bride that made a fairy-tale wedding a reality for me. I don’t even think I realized royalty existed in my lifetime until Princess Diana stepped out of her Cinderella carriage. I watched the entire ceremony along with the other 750 million viewers around the world. It was known as the “fairy tale wedding of the century." That day began my personal dream for a happily ever after.
As I was writing "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?", it seemed like the cover of every magazine had something to say about their son and next royal heir, Prince William and his bride, Catherine Middleton. The future of the monarchy had begun. The next generation royals would eventually inherit the throne and wear the royal crown. With modern day access to the internet and social media, this young couple carried on the family tradition of royal weddings by captivating an estimated 108 billion viewers worldwide. It was the largest viewed royal wedding in world history until yesterday when Prince Harry Married Ms. Markle. The new Prince and his bride successfully multiplied the viewing audience by 150 times over the weekend, as compared to the number of viewers who watched his mom, Princess Di, wed his dad, Prince Charles.
Are you prepared for your royal wedding?
I think if we’re honest, we’ve all been intrigued by royalty or fame in some way. It captivates our imagination. Every girl dreams of a royal wedding like Princess Di, Catherine Middleton, and Meghan Markle, where life seems perfect and everything falls into place, enabling the bride and groom to live in marital bliss forever. The royal wedding ceremony is viewed in our imaginations as a pivotal point to a grand future which is why the world watched as royalty wed. That’s also why many couples spare no expense to make their wedding day as breathtaking as possible, but the truth is a well planned wedding does not guarantee a happy couple a fairy-tale life. The grandeur of the wedding doesn’t determine the promise of its success.
According to a book released several years ago about Prince Charles and Diana, the author states they both wanted to call off the royal wedding the night before. As Lady Diana expressed her fear and the desire to cancel the whole event, she was told, “It’s too late; your face is already printed on the tea napkins.” As we all know, Diana divorced her Prince Charles fifteen years later, rocking the royal palace and creating public frenzy as the media accusations spun out of control about the stability of the family throne. The truth is, once the wedding is over and the guests are gone, the work of learning how to live together has just begun. Princess Diana had spent months in training on how to behave like a royal. She learned how to dress, how to present herself to the public, and how to take tea in the afternoon with diplomats, but no one had prepared her for how to be a wife.
What does "I DO" do?
Somehow the two small but powerful words, "I DO", change everything for the two people getting married. Even people who have chosen to live together first, before marrying, still say once they recited their vows everything changed. Why is that? Could it be the promises made in the wedding day formalities actually hold some incredible power over the relationship once it is officially sealed? In my book, I delve into the history and symbolism of the wedding ceremony as we learn what all the pomp and circumstance actually means and why every wedding is meant to be royal.
Is Happily Ever After possible?
As far as happiness goes, some couples go into marriage realistically knowing it won’t be that easy to find. In fact, they know it will be hard work, but they still believe with all their hearts they can overcome the challenge and live a life at least close to their version of Happily Ever After. On the other hand, some go down the aisle with blinders on and no idea what it will require to make a marriage last. Many unrealistically believe in the automatic fairy-tale ending before they even say “I Do”.
Some couples don’t believe in the wedding nuptials at all, so they simply choose the less complicated route without a solid commitment. They pack up their bags and their toothbrush and move in. That way if it doesn’t work out they can just call it a purely physical thing and move on by moving out. Despite how it all began for each of us, most of us still long to feel our heart skip a beat when our lover enters the room. We long for the simple brush of one hand against another to take our breath away for the rest of our lives. Unfortunately, after saying “I Do” or sharing dresser drawers, most couples quickly realize it’s not as easy as all the fairy-tales make it out to be. What if, however, it is easier than we think it is? What if we just need clear answers to tough questions, about this mysterious thing called love and marriage in order to find peace?
What's the answer?
In 1 Corinthians 14:33a we learn that, “God is not a God of disorder but of peace” (NIV)
What really makes a wedding royal?
If we want to rid ourselves of chaos we have to dig deeper for answers in the Scriptures. After all, God was the one who performed the first wedding ceremony. The Bible, in essence, is a history book. Although many argue against its truth, archaeology has continued to prove its historical accuracy. Even if you don’t have a relationship with God, the relevance of the information in this history book called the Bible can’t be denied.
What did I learn?
I was amazed and I think you will be too as I share in chapter five of my book some of the interesting facts I discovered about the wedding and its traditions. I unearthed some details that help define marital identity that can change your life no matter where you are in the journey of love. Many couples never realize the traditional wedding ceremony typically uses the Scriptures from the Bible's first wedding. In fact, not only are the vows we say found there but many of the rituals we do in the ceremony are actually found there. As I began to read and understand these ideas, I learned that the wedding ceremony itself is based on many covenant traditions. These ideas aren’t just formal vows written by a wedding planner, they are the water, sand, and gravel used to construct the foundation of a strong marriage that can last a lifetime. They’re meant to be the solid ingredients on which to build our palace. These ideas are our hope and our future for the wedding of our dreams and its success. The defining point in a royal wedding is the rich history of traditions and covenants the ceremony represents.
Were you created for royalty?
We were all meant for royalty! In fact, we were designed for it. We were also created for a royal marriage built on unshakable ground. From the first wedding ceremony, the principles of till death do us part were put into place to give us the foundation we need to move forward in holy matrimony. Marriage is not just something we survive, it’s meant for us to thrive in royal marital bliss! What an incredible gift we’ve been given. I hope you’ll follow me through my book, "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?" as I unpack everything I learned in my own journey. It will change your life. It will set you free to be royalty and live nobly for a lifetime.
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Dan and I just celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary this month! We traveled thru four states in ten days! It was an awesome trip with some amazing sights, but it never fails when we journey together we often find ourselves in big discussions about which way to go. I'm a back-road queen and love the road less traveled. Dan, on the other hand, prefers the reliable path. This model is a great example of how couples sometimes communicate and communication is a path all couples have to travel. Many times, women like to talk everything out and adventure to the end of the road in conversation. Men almost always prefer just the facts, less conversation, and peaceful normalcy. These roles can be reversed based on differences in personality, but even Science says it's usually the woman who has the most words to say.
Do you struggle with communication?
Conversation was one area where Dan and I had a lot to learn. For many years, it was a bumpy road where I often found myself complaining about Dan's communication skills. Several years back, I had a break through. The truth hit me as I realized the bigger problem with our communication was not him. It was me. (Ouch!) My need to constantly analyze a situation, create a solution to a problem, or simply state my opinion was at the root of our problem. Don't get me wrong, a wife's beautiful role in communication and the act of gathering and giving information is one of the many keys to success in marriage. I lay out the details about this powerful role within God's divine design in my book, "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?. The challenge in marriage arises when we don't understand our differences as men and women. Because of those created contrasts, if we're not careful, women can operate in the tendency to talk a situation to death. Why? Because we are naturally more detail oriented and we have twice as many utterances to utter in a day.
When the king speaks, do you listen?
In the midst of my own epiphany, I realized the king of my palace wasn't talking because the queen wasn't listening. It made sense. If you're not going to be heard or your words are not going to be valued, why speak? Scientific studies back up the fact women have twice as many words to speak on a daily basis than men. For that reason, we have to be careful not to fill the air with empty words while our husband is struggling to fit in a priceless point.
For many years, after Dan and I would end a conversation, I would often realize I was the one who did all the talking. Sadly, I knew nothing more about his thoughts on the matter than when we started. That all changed the day I realized I needed to stop talking as much and start listening more. I knew it might require setting guidelines and goals with boundaries within daily dialogue, but I was willing to make the effort to create a healthy place for conversation to occur.
Which conversation path do you flow in?
I remember in our premarital counseling many years ago, Dan and I were told within every marriage there is a bubbling brook and a quiet stream. Science not only says we have more words than men but also men process information differently than women. It would seem women are often the bubbling brook in the relationship for that reason. Men however like to think before they speak, and when they speak they have a desire to be respected because respect is love and speaks to the heart of a man. Women on the other hand often think out loud without giving much thought to what they're saying, and sometimes when our thoughts bubble over they can be quite intimidating, especially if our spouse is the quiet stream and we're bubbling away like a brook.
That was exactly what was going on in our marriage. I was such a bubbling brook, my husband, the quite stream, was silent. You might be relieved to know you and I are not the first women to struggle. Actually, a case can be made that it all started in the Garden of Eden at creation. After all, that's where communication broke down for the first time between the newly married couple. Could it be Adam was a quiet stream and Eve wasn't comfortable with the lack of words between them so she struck up a conversation with a serpent? With Eve's bubbly personality, as she began to talk to the intruder in their midst, Adam stood watching and remained silent. If we want to reverse the effects of that chaotic conversation, we have to create a different atmosphere and build a safe haven for open dialogue so we don't find ourselves in a broken system of miscommunication.
How do we do create healthy conversation?
We start by embracing our individuality and uniqueness as a couple. We have to understand that even though men typically have fewer words, they're words are not less valuable. If the role is reversed and your husband happens to be the bubbling brook, the rules still apply. We have to allow our spouse to be who they are and who God created them to be when it comes to their way of talking. Just because men scientifically have fewer words doesn't mean their words hold less power. They may not speak their thoughts in the way you or I would or even say what we always want to hear, but when they speak it can be priceless. Creating conversation is a start in the right direction in spite of our differences. The beautiful reality is God created opposites to attract because each person in the relationship has strengths and weaknesses that their partner needs and together they make an incredible combination, even in communication.
Are you willing to try these ideas?
Do you choose palace or castle conversation?
In palace days, if a queen refused to listen to the king of her kingdom she could be sentenced to exile or even death causing war to break out and castle living to set in. (Oh my!) If you want your king to speak, take the time to control your speech and quietly listen. After he has spoken, he will value what you also have to say since he's been heard. If your spouse struggles in this area, don't try to force change. Instead, create an atmosphere where they can feel good about speaking and being heard. In the end, communication is the key to every healthy happy marriage. Strong relationships stay strong when people talk on a daily basis. It's a part of staying glued together as one flesh. I don't know about you, but I prefer palace pillow talk over chaotic castle conversation any day of the week!
"If we want our spouse to talk, we have to create a safe place for their voice to be heard and their words to be spoken without criticism or judgment."
Wow! It seems Spring has sprung? The first sign at our house is the loud and undeniable croak of thousands of frogs in our back pond in search of the right companion. Not only are the croakers croaking, but the wedding buzz is buzzing! My daughter is a wedding photographer and she keeps me up to date on all the latest matrimonial trends. In fact, she's asked me to join her at the FOX Theater in Atlanta for a Bridal Show in a couple of weeks! I'm tagging along as the author of her #1 Recommended Read for New Brides!
Palace Living or Pond Dwelling?
Since love is in the air, I thought I'd share my thoughts on palace living over pond dwelling for all you future Brides! Choosing a Prince over a Frog is crucial to one of the most important steps you'll ever take toward palace gates. I'll never forget New Years Eve many years ago when a handsome guy sang a song he'd written just for me, got down on one knee, and asked if I'd be his teddy bear for the rest of our lives. Then he gave me the cutest stuffed bear I'd ever seen. I wasn't sure if he was proposing or just being romantic? I said “yes” to the question, while my heart pondered silently the situation of a bare finger. An hour later, while watching a movie, he offered me a box of Cracker-Jax and challenged me to open the prize at the bottom of the box to see which of us got the best surprise. Out fell a heart shaped diamond ring! As he placed it on my finger, he said "I'm giving you my heart for the rest of my life." In that moment, I knew I had myself a prince and not a frog. It wasn't the proposal or the ring or even the Cracker-Jax. It was his character, his heart, and his love for the Lord that had captivated me along with his commitment to cherish me for a lifetime.
Why Did I Ponder the Prince?
Strangely, as we headed towards our wedding day, I began to panic inside. I started to question if this was really Mr. Right ? Thankfully, someone handed me a book on preparing after the proposal, and wah-lah, "mystery solved!" There's apparently a huge difference between the sexes. (Wow, who knew!) It seems once a beau beckons a bride, he never looks back. For a lady in waiting, once the proposal transpires, all the doubts flood in like rushing water. If you happen to be a damsel in doubt, take a deep breath and relax. To ponder the choice of taking a prince from the palace or a frog from the pond is all a part of the plan. Every woman wants to marry Mr. Right and live happily ever after. It's in the nature of who we are to desire a knight in shining armor who will love us till death do us part. God created it that way for a purpose.
What's the Purpose for the Ponder?
Research says men ponder from the meeting to the ring and then ask the question “Will You?” Women ponder from the ring to the altar and answer “I Will.” Why? Because God takes marriage seriously and he wanted to make sure the journey from the first encounter to the altar was completely contemplated. After all, the groom has to be willing to lay down his life for the sake of the kingdom if necessary, and defend his maiden to the death if need be. From the proposal to the "I Do" the bride has to fully consider her choice. After all, this will be the king of their kingdom, and father of her children, destined to lead wisely and protect bravely. She too must determine if she's committed to loving him for the rest of her life. This choice is one of the most important decisions in a couple's future because marriage is a covenant. In fact, the ceremony is full of traditions that represent covenants dating all the way back to the time of the Old Testament, and those covenants were never meant to be broken. (To learn about the covenants, check out my book "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?" where I discuss in chapter 4, "What Makes a Wedding Royal").
How Can You Tell a Prince from a Frog?
Before meeting my husband, I was everybody's bridesmaid and nobody's bride. In my desperation, I almost kissed a frog. I was dating a guy I'd dreamed of marrying since childhood. After several months, his favorite line was, “We could get married since we both want the same things: a nice house, nice cars, and a couple of kids.” Every time I heard those words, my heart skipped a beat. Not a flutter of love but a putter of panic. My parents had the same "happy life" list and I knew from experience those things didn't bring palace paradise. I wanted more. I wanted to marry a man who would love me for who I was and honor and cherish me all the days of my life. Thank goodness, one Saturday morning, as I lay in bed pondering the pond over the palace, it finally hit me. This was not the prince God had for me. Immediately I ended it and asked God to take over. It was a "Jesus take the Wheel" sort of moment. It was time to quit trying to change my frog into the prince he could never be and trust my Father in Heaven who knew me best to bring me my prince charming. Literally, the next day I walked into church, my eyes met the eyes of a mystery man across the room, and I was captivated. That night he asked me out on our first date and a year later we were engaged, teddy bear and all. I found my knight in shining armor, and he's been mine now for almost twenty-eight years! Scripture says in Jeremiah 29:11,
I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.
This is God's promise and his covenant to you. If we surrender our lives and embrace his plans, we will never be disappointed in love. We may face disappointment in life and circumstances but in the midst of difficult times, knowing you married the one meant for only you will glue you together when everything else tries to tear you apart.
Will You Miss Mr. Right?
After marriage, I realized there were a lot of toads I could have kissed at the altar, but giving up and letting God lead me to the noble man meant to be mine was the most important decision I made in exchanging the yucky pond for the peaceful palace. I acknowledge that meeting Mr. Right rarely happens that fast with a frog one day and a prince the next. The truth is, when I consider how close I came to missing the prince God had for me and the catastrophe had I not surrendered the day before, I realize just how muddy my life would have been. I was literally one day away from running out of time and instead of a royal wedding I would have had an empty wishing well. That thought blows the lily pad right out of the water.
What's My Royal Takeaway?
Pondering Mr. Right is never wrong. Asking yourself "Is this the one God created just for me?" is one of the most important questions you will ever ask. It's just as important as the answer you will give on the day you say “I Do.” Once you say "I Do", it becomes "I Will Forever" or at least that's how your Father in Heaven meant it to be because he knew being faithful means forever.
Will You Release, Run, and Wait?
If you're in a dilemma and dating a frog, don't waste another minute. Back in the days of Kings and Queens, a daughter of the King never married beneath herself because marrying a frog could mean losing the crown or lead to the demise of the entire kingdom. The same is true today. If you want everything God has to offer you in love and marriage, start focusing on becoming the beautiful princess you were created to be instead of chasing down an unworthy frog and calling him a prince. My best advice, release that frog back into the pond, pick up the hem of your robe, and run as fast as you can from the icky, sticky mud to the living water. It's a fountain overflowing with all the love you need to make you fulfilled as the Bride of Christ. Once you're fully satisfied in him, he will order the steps of your prince right to your palace door!
Because Pharaoh refused to release what was in his hand, he was plagued with frogs... Exodus 7-10
Every February fourteenth, couples search the store shelves for the perfect gift or card for their special loved one. According to Hallmark, more than 163 million cards are exchanged around the world on Valentine's Day each year. Many complain it's a holiday created by card companies, while others believe it's historical. Although the date has some historical reference, it has nothing to do with the beautiful love God created to be celebrated and cherished between a husband and his bride. This is a one-of-a-kind matchless love. There is nothing more beautiful or more challenging than love and marriage. Let's be honest. Yes, it's amazing at times, but it is also incredibly hard at others. The truth is, marriage isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to mold us and shape us by challenging us to become less selfish and more loving. When we accept this idea and embrace the truth, our challenges can become a good thing, and our marriage can begin to flourish. We are two hearts with three parts and according to scripture, a strand of three is not easily broken.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. But a cord of three strands is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Just as our Creator in Heaven is found in three parts as God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, he created the union of marriage to operate in the same way for the sake of strength. Together our three parts are perfected by his design. We each have our individual roles yet they operate as one captivating, beautiful masterpiece. When God created us in His image, there was no detail left undone. He not only wanted the relationship to create love in our lives, but he longed for it to thrive and operate in such a way that our love would last until death parted us.
Which part am I in the strand of three?
The answer lies in scripture. Within the marriage dynamic, there are three roles to be played. Someone has to be the head of the home which represents God the Father. Then there's the role of Jesus, who was a servant leader sent to do the work of the Father, and then last but certainly not least, there is the Holy Spirit. The mighty, rushing wind who moves throughout our lives shaking things up and challenging us to greatness.
What role does the king of our palace play?
According to Ephesians 5:23, man was created to be the head of the home. He was formed to be the noble leader who makes great decisions. The one at the top who oversees the benefits and blessings of life just like God the Father does. He is protector, using his unemotional wisdom to create strategic battle plans to defeat the enemy. He is provider. According to the story of the fish and the loaves, God provided and multiplied when there was lack. In the nature of every man is the desire to labor and bring home provision for the love of his life. This is the role God designed just for the king of our home.
Ephesians 5:25 says husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and laid down his life for it. Husbands are not only called to lead but to lead sacrificially. God challenged them to go to the ends of the earth and relinquish their lives, if required. Just as Jesus commanded the winds and waves to be still, husbands stand in the storm with arms outstretched holding back the cyclones, keeping everyone safe. A husband is gentle, yet truthful. He loves, yet he confronts as Jesus did when there was dishonor in the house. Jesus taught Biblical truth, speaking into the lives of those he led. Our husbands are to be spiritual teachers at home and at work. Jesus rose early to pray for direction. Husbands have a mandate to cover their families in prayer. Jesus did not waiver on any mission set before him. He bravely faced the enemy and used God's word as a weapon. A husband is called to be the knight in shining armor who wars for his family no matter what it costs him, even unto death.
If husband is Father and Servant Leader, who is the wife?
The wife represents the Holy Spirit! Through our identity, the strand of three is complete. Together as two hearts with three parts, the bond of marriage is strong enough to withstand any formidable foe. In scripture, the Holy Spirit represents the most powerful force sent by God to empower man. That means woman is a magnificent gift of power given from the heart of God placed in the arms of man. Genesis 2:8 says, "It is not good for man to be alone." We are beautiful and delicate like a breeze, yet powerful and strong like a mighty rushing wind and we can empower the king of our home to stand on the battlefield of life and conquer the world.
What are the characteristics of the Holy Spirit that empower us as wives?
This week as you prepare to celebrate love and romance, remember the unique role you've been given. When we understand who we are and who God created us to be, our marriage begins to look like a beautiful bouquet of flowers that will never wilt or fade away. Embracing your noble identity in marriage can actually make your life like a box of chocolates!
Have you ever struggled to do something you knew had to be done but you really didn't want to do it? Or maybe you were willing to do it but it seemed impossible or too costly and overwhelming. Now that the new year has begun, as we reflect on the life of a young woman named Mary and her beloved, betrothed Joseph, I believe God challenges us all to embrace this new year with resolve to give birth to something new! In considering their journey and how God walked them toward the miraculous, our faith is challenged. They were a couple called to step out and birth something new that would cost them more than they had bargained for. In every new year is a new beginning. Its an opportunity to start over and walk forward toward our own miracle. The question is, are we willing to choose this new season with intent to listen for the breakthrough voice of the Father and answer His call.? God beckoned Mary and Joseph to give life to a miracle bigger that they could imagine! In the pilgrimage of this chosen couple, we can be encouraged that the choice to follow wherever God leads will be worth the blessing in the end. Make this a breakthrough year for your marriage and family!
Envision being filled with the excitement of new love, engaged to be wed, when suddenly an angel appears with the message of an unplanned baby and the call for you to bear its birth? How overwhelming the idea must have been, and what an internal struggle it surely created. Being chosen to birth the son of God had never happened before and it would never happen again. Mary said, "Let it be to me as you have said.," and Joseph took the word of an angel that she was in fact a virgin carrying the foretold Messiah. God was asking them to surrender their hopes and dreams, and in Mary's case, even her womb, for the sake of an earth-shattering, world changing miracle! A "miracle" that meant disappointing family and friends who would not understand. Despite the risks, God had chosen a future for them more important than what they had planned for themselves, a miraculous child that held the hope of the world in his hands.
Will You Embrace the Call?
As Mary embraced her calling, and Joseph embraced his expectant bride, their nine month journey began. In scripture, the number nine means "the end of a matter as far as God is concerned; the end of God's judgment." How fitting! Mary was carrying our saving grace, the end of God's judgment over mankind, in her womb. If you've ever had a child you know as the baby grows so do the parents. Each trimester representing a different part of the development of the miracle as the mother and father prepare for the birth. In Mary and Joseph's case, each period of time was equipping them for the coming King!
Will You Surrender?
The first trimester was all about surrender. The expecting parents were getting used to the idea of a baby on the way while yielding to the idea of parenthood. Letting go of life as they'd known it and grabbing hold of the life that would come. Mary had to give up her dignity, her reputation, and possibly her fiancé' in order to obey the call. Joseph surrendered his pride, his dreams, and his expectations of taking a chaste maiden until the birth had occurred. They did what we all have to do when God calls us to birth something new. Whether it be a baby, an idea, a new career, or even a ministry, it requires the yielding of our own will, laying down whatever we're hanging on to, in order to grab hold of the greater blessing God has to offer.
Surrendering our dreams, letting them die, and giving birth to new reality is one of the hardest things we ever have to do as human beings. Mary and Joseph had reached a cross road, a choice of following their plan or embracing the unknown God had prepared. Their surrender meant walking blindly into destiny without the birds eye view of God while believing the journey would be worth it. Scripture says, the one who hangs on to his life will lose it, but the one who surrenders it all, will actually find it. They laid theirs down.
Will You Grow and Prepare?
When surrender is complete, the second trimester begins and growth and preparation ensue. It's a season for physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional formation preparing for what lies ahead, gathering the things needed, and learning what's required to be ready to deliver. During Mary's second trimester, she traveled to her cousin Elizabeth's house while Joseph, by Jewish custom, would have been preparing a place for his bride. Mary's bump would have been showing while Elizabeth's would have been about to burst forth. Elizabeth was a part of Mary's story. She was having a mid-life miracle baby destined to lead the way for the ministry of the Messiah. His name would be John the Baptist.
The Bible doesn't tell us everything the two expectant women shared, but Titus 2:4-5 says, "The older women can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home...." Mary was growing in her understanding of how to carry out God's plan through Elizabeth's example.
When God calls us to give birth to something new, many times we won't be prepared, but if we draw close to the Father he provides what or who we need in order to move us into his plan. Mary stayed with Elizabeth until she delivered. I imagine when she left for home, she was showing and glowing, accepting her destiny, and embracing her responsibility. She knew what to expect and she understood what was at stake. The call of God to birth something new will never leave us unprepared. He will faithfully provide what we need to birth a God sized dream by giving us the opportunity to watch others around us give birth to their own. We can gather information and learn from their example in order to manifest the miracle he has prepared.
Will You Walk in the Journey Toward the Blessing?
When the third and final trimester arrives it's about walking forward and making the journey for the sake of new life. Many times as delivery draws near, doctors recommend lots of walking to speed up the process of labor. In the birth of the Messiah no detail was forgotten. The prophets of old had foretold his arrival and proclaimed Bethlehem as his birthplace. As divine order would have it, Caesar Augustus decreed that a census of the world should be taken and everyone should return to their hometown. Even Joseph's birthplace had played a role in his future destiny. Mary and Joseph packed up their things and began the long walk to Bethlehem to be counted. From Nazareth, around seventy miles, it would have been a five-day journey by foot and donkey. That fateful walk lead them directly toward providence, speeding along the process of the wonder. They took their journey of faith one step at a time to a town where uncertainty awaited.
Often when God calls us to move, it's only in stepping out that the miracle begins. It's when the path seems the hardest. It's the point where need is the greatest, and the cost is the most demanding. It's usually the place where doubt floods in and what you see doesn't match what God has proclaimed. It's where the voices of reason say, "give up" and impatience bears down. Desperation for the flood gates to open ;presses in.
Will You Embrace the King?
On that starry night in Bethlehem, labor began as the water broke. The rush of living water was flooding into the night and our hope was bursting forth! Mary wasn't just birthing a son, she was pushing forth a new beginning for all of mankind. In that tiny, musty, damp stable the opportunity for good tidings of great joy was starting to rise! Joseph supported his young bride as Mary travailed and delivered our deliverer. As his faint cry filled the night-time sky, the hope of the world was proclaimed!
Just as Mary and Joseph embraced the new born King, we too can find ourselves in that tiny stall when we embrace the Savior and the love he brought us all. When we open our hearts, reach out our arms, and take hold of Jesus, we grab hold of the greatest gift ever given. We find ourselves thrust back in time standing in the middle of that damp and musty stable where the aroma of royalty fills the air.
Birthing life in the midst of what seems like poor timing, might just be God's perfect plan as it was for Mary and Joseph. As you and your family enter this spectacular new year, take a moment to look for the messenger. Choose to surrender to his call. Prepare for the arrival of the miracle God has, and walk in faith toward your destiny. No matter how challenging or poor- timed it might seem, God will meet you where you are and help you walk to where he wants you to go. Choose to cradle the peace of Jesus over chaos, embrace palace living as a child of the King over poverty or wealth. His love is the only provision you will ever need! May you and your family find true peace in knowing the love of the Messiah in this new year because knowing him will assuredly bring the miraculous joy of giving birth to the blessed and glorious life God has planned just for you!
NOTE* The remainder of January always involves fasting for direction for the new year at Simple Faith Ministries. Visit the blog in February for an exciting article on the role of the wife unlike you've ever read before!
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