Fixing things...

Our nature as men is to want to fix things. Whatever your natural bent is, if it is broke, you want to make it better. If you are good with cars, electrical, wood, plumbing, computers, finances, etc., and there is a problem, you probably believe you can solve it.

The issue is that this doesn't necessarily work in relationships. For example, if our wife comes to us with a concern or burden, our first instinct may be to give a prescriptive plan to resolve the issue. However, many times our wives just want someone to share their thoughts and feelings with.

One of the best ways to get to the bottom of why someone is coming to you is to just ask. "What is it that you need from me?" is a simple question that clarifies their intent and helps quickly get at what is  needed. The next time your wife comes to you to discuss something, try it. See how you can really help and then come alongside her in the way she needs you to.

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