Keeping the house in order can be overwhelming, particularly if you have small children. Plan a power hour. Have your wife go through the entire house room by room, putting a post-it note on each door listing what cleaning needs to be done in that room.
Divide the rooms up between family members and start a timer. Younger children may need to partner with someone. Make it a competition to beat the clock and finish within an hour. Then go out and celebrate with ice cream.
One of the most important things that Dan and I implemented at our palace a long time ago was our weekly roundtable meeting. Marriage has a business side that has to be managed. When we don’t manage it well, people get confused and disconnected, no one knows where they are supposed to be, and someone forgets to pick up the children.
That’s why we implemented our weekly meeting where everyone brings their calendar of choice to the table and we hammer out our schedules together for the week. That way everyone knows how to pray for each other. They know where they’re going and when. They know when we’re sharing dinner together, and who’s picking up whom. This is a crucial aspect to keeping the chaos out of your castle and living the palace life.
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One of the most important things we can do for our children is provide a united front. Children are masters at dividing and conquering to get what they want.
Make it a goal to always stand with your wife in any decisions made. Your children need to know what mom says goes, and you support her 100%. Your wife needs to know you always have her back. If there are things you do not agree with, then talk about them privately and come up with a plan you both agree on.
Our wives need to know that they are a priority to us. While you are at work or out and about, text, call, and send an email letting her know you are thinking of her and look forward to being with her when you get home. Search for quotes on "thinking of you" and send an image. Make it a priority this week to spend focused time with her.
Understanding the importance of unity within a business and home is critical to developing healthy relationships.
In business having a unified purpose is crucial to any organization. Everyone on the team has to be headed in the same direction to successfully reach their goals. When disunity arises in a business platform, things can easily unravel leading to a house of cards that can crash at any moment. Every person has their motivations and learning to recognize those in order to find common ground so that every one is moving in the same direction is important to keeping everyone on the same page. Praise and opportunity are great motivators. For example, if a person in business is motivated by a pat on the back, then being sensitive to that as a boss can empower your employee to achieve greater things. If they are driven by promotion and advancement, then giving opportunities for them to take the lead and shine can help them be more motivated to achieve their goals....
Determine ahead of time a specific amount and give your wife some cash, $20, $50, $100 etc. Tell her she can use the money for whatever she likes, but she has to spend it on a date with you, and she has to stay within the budget. Be creative and have fun, maybe use some for dinner, some to shop or go to an event, whatever your wife wants to do. Enjoy the journey!
With Summer winding down and Fall around the corner, it's a great time to get back into the swing of things.
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Getting in a routine of regular weekly meetings helps keep everyone in the family in sync and can prevent something from falling through the cracks.
Why is my spouse not talking?
Dan and I have been married for thirty plus years. Over the years, communication is one area where Dan and I had a lot to learn. For years, it was a bumpy road and I often found myself complaining about Dan's communication skills. Several years back, I had a break through. The truth hit me as I realized the bigger problem with our communication was not him. It was me. (Ouch!) My need to constantly analyze a situation, create a solution to a problem, or simply state my opinion was at the root of our communication problems. Don't get me wrong, a wife's role in communication and the act of gathering and giving information is one of the many keys to success in marriage, which I share in depth in our new book, "Chaos in the Castle or Peace in the Palace?" There we lay out the details about the powerful gatherer and givers God created wives to be. However, outside that role, if we're not careful, we can have the tendency to talk a situation to death since...